Boost your confidence!

What are your feelings about yourself and how do you talk to yourself? Are these things keeping you from achieving everything that you want in life? Do you talk to yourself like you would a friend, or like someone you hate with every fiber of your being?

What would you do if you could accomplish anything you set your mind to? Can you imagine waking up in the morning and feeling excited about the day ahead rather than sitting in bed with a sense of dread and impending doom growing as you prepare for another day of drudgery at a miserable job that you hate?

Are you feeling unfulfilled in your relationships and maybe feel taken advantage of or taken for granted? Do your friends and family tell you that you are a doormat or that you need to stand up for yourself? Maybe you notice it is easy for you to do all kinds of things for other people but when it comes time to do something for yourself you just can’t seem to find the time. Maybe you don’t feel like it’s worthwhile or think you are being selfish if you do things for yourself.

Do you start to feel overwhelmed with other people’s problems? Maybe you feel like they are your problems, or they are going to become your problems later, so it’s best to jump in and fix the situation before it comes to that.

Do you find that speaking up for yourself is hard and that you tend to avoid conflict and confrontation because it is so uncomfortable? Maybe you want others to like you, or think highly of you, or have a positive, approving opinion of you. You think that you won’t get what you want by asking for it and assume others will say no. When you’re angry you use passive aggressive behavior like the silent treatment or banging things around instead of talking about the problem and your feelings and working it out. Does this sound like you?

All of these things are leaving you feeling lonely, unheard, depressed, anxious, and lacking in confidence. The good news is that all these things are fixable!

You can boost your confidence with the help of a counselor.

We are here to help! Counseling with a licensed professional can help you learn to identify some of the thinking traps that are keeping you in situations that leave you feeling this way. A therapist can teach you new skills to regulate your emotions and to start challenging these thinking traps. You will identify new ways of seeing situations and of talking to yourself about yourself. Over time you will notice that your discomfort fades and your feelings of strength, confidence, and empowerment grow.